Yup, you read that title correctly… Justin and I went on a date at the beginning of May and as we were sitting alone and enjoying a drink, we started to count back to when we had last done that. You could say that we were alone while I was pregnant with Elijah, but I’m talking about completely alone – not pregnant – and enjoying our time together as just “Justin and Catherine”. It was truly shocking to discover that not only had we not been alone, and away from Elijah, since his birth, but that if you count those pregnant months too, it was almost two years since we were completely alone with each other, and out of the house. We have had plenty “at-home dates”, where we buy cheese and wine, watch movies, and enjoy long walks while Elijah sleeps in his stroller. However, as crazy as it sounds, we had never both left his presence in 20 months! I know, I know, you are thinking that we are crazy, and you want to lecture us about how important date night are – but the truth is that things have just been different for us over here. Babysitters are hard to come by, and even though we did have close friends offering to watch Eli, he has been completely breastfed and therefore being away from him is nearly impossible. I know that things will be completely different with baby #2 because we will have less time, and more commitments, so that baby will HAVE TO take a bottle. But Eli never took the bottle and we didn’t force it either. By all the accounts, we have enjoyed the closeness that the three of us have experienced as a family. It has been exactly as we would have wanted it to be, but as we approach our “one year of parenting” milestone, we are finally ready to get out and experience some time completely alone.
Eli will only go to bed after his last feed, so leaving the house before 7pm is impossible. Thankful, he sleeps soundly from then until 6am, but there are nights were he does wake up and only the comfort of being nursed my mommy, or rocked by daddy, will send him back to sleep. Who can blame him – he has only ever been around the two of us! For that reason, even though we were free to go off and do our own thing on date night, we stuck close by on the first date. We checked out the coffee shop in our apartment complex that we have been wanting to visit for some time. They have a pool table, and that was fun, but the place dead so we didn’t stay much longer than one round of pool. We ended up outside the Korean store doing what we love best – drinking beer and eating our favourite Korean snacks.
Since then we have been on a couple more dates, one of which ended way too late for a Wednesday night (oops!), and we are enjoying our weekly date nights. For our next one we are planning to walking to the nearby Chinese BBQ street and enjoy a few sticks of meat, vegetables and bread.