It’s quite amazing just how terrible Justin and I are at… BEING APART. When I say terrible, I mean pathetically terrible!! We work at the same school, sit with our desks side-by-side, we take the same bus to work, and even when we exercise, we do it together. It probably makes some people gag a little that we want to be together this much, but the truth is that we simply cannot help it. When we are apart, we feel out of place.
Over and over again I see articles stressing how important time apart is for couples, and yet this couldn’t be more untrue for us. Perhaps it’s because we are similar. We like to do the same things. We enjoy the same music. And we both really enjoy a mixture of staying at home and adventure. In our first year together people made comments like, “Wait until you are married!” And yet, with every year that passes by, our desire to be together only increases.
Since yesterday morning, Justin has been away from home – and quite honestly, I cannot wait for him to return! It feels like he has been gone for a week, and yet I saw him yesterday morning. Pathetic, isn’t it?! This is the first time we have been apart since I have fallen pregnant, and also the first night since the night before our wedding. Every year we have to be apart for some reason, sometimes even for a couple of weeks at a time. Thankfully this time it was only two days because somehow, even though we have been together for longer now, being apart is becoming even more difficult.
Some of you will remember us moaning about this separation in the past – like when Justin went to work an English camp in South Korea, when he went to Japan on a visa run, or when I went to Thailand on a visa run – but it has been a while! Justin and I just enjoyed our longest streak of not being separated: A year and 2 days! It seems that having different passports, and being from different sides of the world while living in a third country means that we might always have to face these periods of separation since we each have different visa restrictions and requirements. When baby comes he will be with daddy on almost everything since the little guy will get a U.S. passport.
When Justin left yesterday, he wrote me a note and left it on our bed (see picture above). I found it when I got home from school. Next to the note was one of our penguins which he had sprayed with his cologne. He took the other penguin with him – sprayed with my perfume. For those of you that don’t know about these penguins, here’s the story: When we are apart, we each have one of these penguins. We bought them on our first summer together, during a holiday on Jeju Island. Some penguins are unique, in that they mate for life. We have read that they can be spilt up and find each other no matter how far apart they are. When we are together, the penguins stand side-by-side on our windowsill. When we have to part ways, we each take a penguin, and we know that we will always find a way back to each other!
Yes, we truly are that very soppy-gag-inducing couple that makes other people sick!!
Justin has completed everything he needed to do in Beijing, and is currently boarding a train which will bring him back to Qingdao. He will be home by about 8pm tonight, and I simply can’t wait to see him come through the front door. Even the smallest periods of separation remind me how much he means to me, and just how much I love every second of every day with him!